I'm a 31 year old woman who lost her virginity just 3 days ago...The reason why I was a virgin for so long was because up until 2 years ago I was VERY religious and wanted to wait until marriage. Now I have ditched religion all together as I no longer believe in it.

 

The guy I had sex with was just a random hot younger guy I met at a club, I was pretty drunk, but do not regret having sex at all as that was my goal. It hurt a lot of course and I'm pretty sure he was expecting me to be more experienced, being older. I want to get as much sexual experience as possible in the next few years. I'm a good looking chick with a hot body and can easily pick up in a club, but I am just worried about the actual sex part. I don't want to wait until I'm in a relationship as that might be a while.

 

I guess my main worry is that guys are gonna be expecting me to be more experienced....(Although I do look young for my age, I could pass as being 25/26)....Should I just be more honest with them and tell them the truth? Would  that turn the guy off? Especially if it's just gonna be a one night stand? I want opinions from guys... If you met a girl in a club who told you she was in a situation like mine... Would that turn you off? Or would you be willing to teach her a few things? Would you prefer her to honest with you about it?

 

And I would like opinions from girls that have been in a similiar situation.....What do you advise?

 

Also I have an older male friend who is very experienced sexially who has offered to be my booty call whenever I like. I think this would be PERFECT as he knows my situation and we could practise. And we're both only interested in sex.... The only problem is that he slept with my best friend 2 months ago (just once)...and I asked her if she minds if I sleep with him and she said that yes it would make her feel uncomfortable.......so because of that I'm reluctant to do it, as I definately don't want to ruin our friendship.....

 

Last thing I don't want advice from any judgemental people.......I know what I want and it's my decision....Just helpful advice please :)

I wouldn't worry about it.

You'll pick up the ropes quickly. Just try to wing it each time or just play I'm never on top card.

Or

If you can do the cute innocent thing and let them know your inexperienced it might actually make a man crave you.

I know I luv the cute thing.

I for one would appreciate the honesty, and would be respectful of your lack of experience.

Definitely knowing this would be good, that way we could go at your pace so it doesn't hurt as much.

Teaching you new things would be lots of fun too I'm sure.

Worry not about the lack of experience. You will plenty of opportunity to have sex. Just remember to take your time and only do what you are comfortable doing ......
Enjoy

your an adult ,wanting sex is not a crime who cares about judgemental people,

Trust me if a guy wants sex he isnt going to care that your a virgin infact that will make him feel more experienced and thus more confident.

I cant see a situation where a guy found you physically attractive and then said...

"oh no.. sorry your a virgin ,I was going to F*** you but since your a virgin I now wont"

I cant speak for all men but I think most would be ok with a virgin

Honesty is very important in sex. Communicating the same is even more important. I doubt any male would worry about your 'inexperience'. I would say that it would be the opposite, most men would find that an ego boost. I know I would. A 'damsel in distress' type fantasy.

You have to remember, we all (male and female) had to, at one time or another, broaden our horizons. I had friends that were Casanovas at 16, while other had to wait well into their 30's. So chances are, the man you meet at the night club could be in the same situation.

I have to say (tongue in check) it was very nice of your older male friend to offer a booty call but I think you are bound by the 'Bro Code' with your friend. I am am sure there men who would offer the same. Just place an ad in the 'AdultDatingGuide' link on this page and you will have an inbox full of winks and kisses!

I wouldnot worry about being inexperienced. Be honest and some guys will help you through the learning journey if you are willing to be experimental. eg. if it hurst in one position try another, maturbating each other prior to sex may work to ease the tension etc

My wife was inexperienced when I met her but it was fun findsing what works and doesn't. The sex to start off with was not as satisfying but now it is awesome.

I had the same problem (religious matters),but for a guy it is very difficult, I kept my self virgin for a long time and now it turned to be a phobia of some kind, lol . every time I hook up with a girl , I panic at the sex part as I feel that I won't do what is needed, and I am not really into hookers to break my virginity, so if you have any advice please let me know
PS. don't tell me to be confident because i tried that a lot , it doesn't work 

Hi tinkerbell,

I for one would find it very arousing and challenging to meet a sexually inexperienced girl who was just interested in sex. That way the whole learning experience could be fun and exciting for both parties.

You also have the enviable position of starting your sexual journey now that you know what you want and you can pick and choose with a bit more clarity and foresight than if you were younger. You have made up your mind and decided that religion will no longer hold you back.

Good on you.

don't worry . you  ignore it this matter. When You start sex dating before said your partner because you know which type of reaction coming your partner side.

don't worry . you  ignore it this matter. When You start sex  before said your partner because you know which type of reaction coming your partner side.

Good thing you dropped the religion now you can live a normal life. As a guy no it wouldnt bother me however why tell them why do they need to know unless you get into a relationship with them otherwise its unnecessary for anything to be said. You are going to have fun now and the first time well it was just that the first now have its some more and enjoy yourself. You may just realise you been missing out on alot of fun but you will catch up fast enjoy yourself and dont be so harsh or honest with guys you meet just have fun...

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Leave the discussion about Religion out of these posts please! You can have a faith or be spiritual and also have a great sex life! This forum is just about the last place where we should be making moral judgements.....

Blue72 obviously has never read the bible and the 10 commandments and makes a utter ignorant comment like that. Read the ladies post she says that she was holding herself back for sex when she was married because of her beliefs.

I hope she now can happily and comfortable enjoy herself and experience her sexuality properly.

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ok guys in clubs dont care. they just want sex. experience or not. if u are as u say "with a hot bod" then majority of guys will over look the experience.

and no dont sleep with your friend. after a while emotions are bound to become unraveled. in short. it fucks shit up.

I think Layeasy should re-read Tinkerbell's post again! She wasn't holding back from sex because she was married - she 'religiously' wanted to maintain her 'virginity' till she was betroved to a man with equal qualities (a very rare thing these days). I still maintain that you can be Spiritual and yet have a fantastic sex life! And, if assuming a Bible based perspective, as Layeasy has quoted - the Ten Commandments are all about the Do Nots under Old Testament law, none of which apply to Tinkerbell's post! If Layeasy actually understood the bible from which he has quoted, he would actually see that the Bible celebrates sex in many other passages (Song of Soloman, for example, which discusses oral sex and various positions for sexual pleasure, etc).

I too hope that Tinkerbell27 can enjoy as many sexual experiences as she wants to, and finds a terrific and reliable parter to perhaps one day start a family. There is no moral judgement or ignorance from me. While people are entitled to believe or not believe in what ever they like, I just consider it best not to mix in comments about religion on this forum - that was the only point I was trying to make!

I think Blue72 was wrong in saying Bible celebrates sex in many other passages. Bible describes sex within marriage not anywhere. Although the Biblical standard should apply to anyone whether or not you accept or believe. Breaking it is breaking the Commandment. But we have free will to choose to obey or not. I am religious but I do fail to obey.
Okay back to Tinkerbell27. I appreciate your honesty and based on your description, I believe I would be very keen to show you lots of things to help you gain experiences that you want. If you think the guy will be turned off because of your inexperience, my suggestion is to go elsewhere. You will not get your satisfaction with him anyway as he is a selfish person. Tinkerbell27, would you prefer to have sex with someone who cares or not even though they may give you the same orgasm?

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