Hi there, just wondering if I could receive some advice on this delicate topic.

My girlfriend and I have been going out now for close to 7 months, and been involved sexually in 6 of them. However, she is still yet to climax. The closest we have ever gotten was in a hot bath, and involved lots of stimulation of her clitoris.

Recently however, the sex has been...interesting.

She has been rather dry, and has complained it has been painful for her at times due to abrasion, condom, etc. This is without a doubt true, and I have gone and purchased some better water based lubricant to help with this.

She is very keen to get into the act, and so this is what I attribute to the dryness.

Combined with this, she is perfectly willing to give oral, but not receive. I believe that if she was more comfortable, she might allow me in to that emotionally involved experience with her.

Also, I understand certain positions help her to orgasm much easier, but because she has never orgasmed it is difficult. Her on top is the key, I know this.

Are there any suggestions on the topic of allowing me to give her oral, things that may improve her comfort factor?

I am very patient, and willing to wait to experience this moment with her. But if it is a comfort thing, I know that can be solved. She has mentioned it is a bit "unhygenic"...

Also, when I am doggy style with her, and try to touch her clitoris, she sometimes pushes my hand away.

There is a little more info, but for the moment that is the most important. Help!!!

Hi Pascalmassey,

It sounds like there could be some underlying issues. She has some dryness, doesn't allow you to touch her clitoris, won't let you go down on her and her views of hygiene and sex.

I'm thinking (and this is just a guess), that she is thinking about it a lot, may have been raised to believe that sex is a dirty act and hence not really getting into it as much as you would like.

I think having a sit down and talk with her about it may help and see where she ising from.

I would be interested in what a lady would have to say on this matter.