Gday. I'm a 21 year old who just recently got married (6 months ago) to my girlfriend of 3 years.

She was a virgin when we got together and i'd fooled around with a few girls in my teen years. We were quite sexually active early on in things. When we moved in together though things started slowing down. It was still good but ultimately not as much as i wanted as a 19 year old male in his prime.

Then we were engaged things slowed down even more. I just put that down to the wedding planning stress. Then once we were married it just stopped. Just like that. The two week honeymoon consisted of maybe 5 'batches' of sex. And since returning home it's just dried up completely. Not only that but she has stopped doing chores around the house. She's split our bank accounts so that she get's her money and i get mine etc. Ultimately just not making marriage what i thought it would be.

She's always been sexually shy. Never instigating, Not liking the lights on or sex in the daytime cause i would see her body. I try to make her feel sexy/attractive. I try to show that i love/care for her. I try to do more around the house while she's at work so she has more energy when she gets home instead of having to do all the cleaning after a day at work.

She says that the 'crazy sex' time of our lives is over and we don't need to do it as much anymore. To me we never had a crazy sex time. WE've never had sex more than once in a day. ONce or twice she's gotten dressed up or surprised me when i come home from work etc. But ultimately it's just become a missionary 'get it over with' sort of sex life.

What more do I need to do to increase her sex drive?

its not gonna change mate, just start finding it elsewhere

Hi Mate
I just wanna put my two cents worth in for whatever its worth??

My own wife had similar anti sex issues lasting for a couple of years after the birth of our kids, luckily for me they 'the kids' were 5 years apart! I spoke with my wife about this and fortunately for me, she readily agreed, that for some unknown reason to her, she was just not in the mood any more..fortunatly also... we have always had a pretty good understanding of each other and she suggested that I might like to use the time to see if I was really over my old life desires (of guys!)

I told her that id thought about it..but was not sure if I really wanted back into "the scene" again.

It was at this point I realised its now or never..So I told her about an older woman that had been flirting with me lately

(known to both of us!) She was shocked at first..But asked me straight out if I had wanted to have sex with her??

I knew this was make or break point between my wife and I ..So I told her the truth..Yes.. I said ..

Ive long thought about it!!...Expecting to be thrown out of our house, I braced for her reply..Instead, she just shrugged and told me if that's what I wanted... then do it! just don't ever talk to me about it!..
Flabbergasted I simply agreed never to mention it again!! I went on to have a beautiful one and a half year affair with that woman whilst still maintaining a loving relationship with my wife and new child...I know it sounds to good to be true...but I lived it!!!

And.. it worked for me twice!. my wife and I gradually became involved once again, and like all couples have had our up's an downs but alls cool!
My point here is this....It doesn't always hav to be about Bang!!! separation ...Start again..try all over...just maybe there are some flexible options??? Maybe this girl still loves you deeply?? jus not in the physical sense?? maybe it never was in the physical sense??? only you know that??

The fact that you guys dont have kids in the equation maybe bothers me a little??
(only in the sense that id understood my own wifes p.n.d) after the births..But thats not to say your girl suffers her own form of sexual depression...point is ...talk to her!
Depending on how you feel about her,maybe explore a few options before you go into dump an burn mode hey??
Hope this helps?
Rgds B.

Hmmm.

I would worry about the bank accounts being separated.

Remember that in Australia the woman is entitled to 50% of the assets even if she brought nothing into the marriage. The 50% goes up if there are any children involved - can be higher than 80%.
Been there done that!!!
Once  you have been together for 6 months or more, even not married this applies.

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Just a horny guy