Hi everyone, I just joined your forum. Hope someone can tell me if i am normal ? My wife & I has been married into our 8th years. We make love once a day or 5 times a week, i.e. weekend sat. & sun day we don't have any because of entertaining my daughter ( 11 years old now )once a week weekend visit (from my first marriage). I can only get to make love to my wife if I wake up at 6:30 a.m & joined her in the shower for 15 to 20 minutes. If i miss that time or decide to sleep in a bit longer, then i miss out my sex for the day. We've never make love in bed or at night for that matter since we've been married---no kidding. I've tried sweet talk her many many times over the years if we could make love twice a day, i.e. after dinner we have 3 hours free time together before we go to sleep.
If we could take one hour of that free time to make love instead of watching T.V. or playing Wii. Each time I was bluntly rejected & told I was abnormal. I deeply love my wife & she is a sexy lady in her mid 30's with the right proportion on her. I knew many men tried to make advances to her at parties or at work. My friends kept telling me I'm a lucky man to have her. But, am i lucky ? just give you one instance so you can tell me. One night after finishing everything i sat down to watch T.V. & the wife as usual goes upstair to change into her sexy sleeping lingerie. 15 minutes later she'll join me in the lounge room. That night i just feeling a little bit romantic, dim the light,put on a few candles & her favourite music, open a bottle of wine she likes & her favourite chocolate. We danced, we cuddle & we kissed. Seeing her fully bare round firm pert boob, as usual she lets me gently squeeze & suckle them. She was very content, happy & excited with her head lying on my lap. I can feel her nipples swollen hard like a rock & her pussy wet as a sponge, my cork stretch out hard like a iron pipe, my pulse beating twice as fast, i whispered softly into her ear " sweetheart, i want you very much, please let me go inside of you." Immediately, this turns ugly. She jumped up, stormed off saying I'm greedy & abnormal. One time I was that angry & annoyed & told her I'll go to my ex-wife to get it. I was expecting her to be infuriated, instead she camly said , go ahead & good luck. So, I stormed out of the house & the Ex. obligingly fullfill my desire. When I came back home later & she quizzed me if i feel better now & asked if she is good in sex. When morning comes,back as normal we had sex in the shower.So, you can see she is firmly fix no sex 2nd time in a day. If we ever do any heavy petting I'll have to jerk it off myself with her watching or she 'll jerk it off with her silky hands. Rarely, I'll go to my Ex fearing she might turns me off altogether off sex. But, I'm a young energentic guy in my late 30's really needing to let off steam when i get off my hectic work schedule. So, do you think I'm unreasonable & abnormal sexually, anyone?

Hey there, I think there is something else going on with you wife...I can't understand why...going to your ex probally isn't the best idea...even with her permission.. I think you're doing what most people would do, you guys seems to have intamacy in lots of other ways, but when it comes to actual sex she's not interested...seriously think she has other issues...without knowing her, I can't be sure. Have you guys thought of going to a sex therapist?? You don't want it to come between the two of you.. good luck

Hi baby er, thanks for your post. I was hoping to hear I'm not the problem,so i can show it to my wife she is the one needing help. When I nagged her for sex more than one time a day, she would say most people do not even get once a day,i'm the one have hormone imbalance & i need to see a doctor. The people around us seems to be under her spell. No one sees the truth & no one will speak ill of her. I thought by going outside our circle , i might get some positive answers.

I think what your wife said is partly true...most people would like sex 5 times a week..but just because you want it more doesnt make you abnormal either...there is a big difference between what she wants and what you want... I still get the feeling that something is wrong that she doesn't want to tell you...you've done alot to try and encourage your wife to be more sexually active...from a woman's perspective tho, try not to be too aggressive about what you want to say, be kind, and explain how much you care and don't want this to come between you....because if you make it all about what you want, she is going to be very angry and won't listen... This is a big problem with lots of people, and so common...so get help and see if you guys can find a happy place for both of you..

Hi, baby er thank you again for your response.Sorry, if I've come across to you as aggressive or unkind to my wife, but to the contrary I adore her. I'm just being desperate & run out of patience. I do not think my wife is not interested in sex because at the climax of making love, she often said she wished she could have a second orgasm. For an upper class professional lady,I think her problem is she does not want to be known as 'slut' or 'loose' for having sex too often.Her perception is those classifications belong to the lower class people. If this is her feeling, how can i change her without hurting her ?

P/S : To the Moderator, please, can you shift my post to Questions & Answers section? May be in the main part of the section i get more readers & bigger response to my post. Thank you.

No, I didn't think you were being aggressive, just when you talk to her if she is quite touchy on the subject be really wary of the way you say it.. To me it is obvious you adore your wife...just more sex would be good for you... I really hope you can get it sorted out.

Hi funlover

I read your posts and to me it does not seem to be your fault.
Have you tried asking her if we don't make luv in the shower can I have another time of the day of my choice. To me it seems she is dictating to you when and how she wants it and you have no say.
You could suggest a threesome or maybe porn dvds.
Really what happens in the home is between those people but I think she maybe talking to her girlfriends and getting there reactions to your sexual advances.
Maybe tell her how you feel and try to come to a compromise.

Good luck
Tiffany

you're not unreasonable, i think its just some women are like this.
my wife wants sex only once a month and if i ask for more, i'm too horny.
if i could, i'd probably go back to my ex too, but i don't get permission like you do.

Hi Tiffany,

Thanks for your response. Her reason & mine in the begining to have sex in the shower so we can CENSORED 2 birds with one stone. Morning is a rush to work.Sex in the morning gives my wife the adrenalin to start her busy day. Change another time does not give me an extra sex i wanted. I could catch her when she comes home at 5 as she has her 2nd shower of the day. Unfortunately,not very often I can get out of work by 6 & there is no gurantee she wanted it at that hour as she tried to destress herself. Sex in bed she regarded as boring & bed is a place to sleep. Tiffany your suggestion of porn dvd would put her off entirely as she regards this as a lower class pursuit. By the way she has interest in sex, as quite often we sat down to relax after dinner, we often engage in a bit of petting, but no sexual intercourse. 3somes, never thought of it before. If & only if she is interested that will probably give me one extra per week.(i'm seeking one extra per day.) She has 4 girls very close to her that often meets & do things together, two in particular often talks passionate love stuffs & they knew I want the extra demand from my wife. But, they are always on my wife side, but only jockingly said they are available as they're only getting 3 times a week, so there is 2 times to catch up to us !! I've 2 good friends from childhood that I could talk my heart out with them, & they've a happy marriage I do not like to mess up. Now, what is my solution?

Hi baby er, Thanks for your support. As a woman, personally 2 times a day would you take it ?

Hi hornyhubby, You made me feel better comparing what you get. The problem is I've this homorne problem as soon as i sees my wife I've the urge for her. During the day i see some sexy girls , i don't get the same urgency needs like I get from my wife.

Two times a day wouldn't bother me at all...life here gets really busy too but sex is a very important part of my life...sometimes it's not the amount of sex but it's also that doing it the same way would be boaring for me. I have to try different things...different locations, positions etc...I really don't know what the answer would be for you...she doesn't seem to want to talk to you about it or change your sex life...I'm really sorry...

5 times a week?

Yep, I'd say that's very abnormal.

Lucky bastard.....

I have heard this same story in the USA. Better get some new material, Ha!