I have to agree with the try yourself first. With my first wife, she was pretty wild at first but the anal thing never really seemed to e up. But I did sense she was a little edgy when ever I got close. Later when having one of those exploring sessions she told me she hated anal and it was like being stabbed with a knife and was convinced those that enjoyed it were just built different. When pressed how she knew she didn't like it, I knew she had been a bit of a groupie with sleazy bands when 14 and the occasion that ended that was getting gang banged including lots of anal when she was so out of it she couldn't really do anything. Since then she had tried it for a guy in more relaxed circumstances but the pain was intense. She tried for me with lots of lubricant but as soon as I started to enter she just freaked out. But judging how touchy she was, I was convinced she just needed to relax but that was going to be really hard for her. So I figured I needed to have a go myself and used a tapered carrot with lube so I could gradually take more thickness. And she was right, it hurt at first until I moved into the spoon position, really relaxed, lots of small in and out at first and then I found that with repeating pushing out like I was trying to shit and then pulling back like I was really trying to hang on allowed a nice smooth entry and I have to say quite enjoyable. Next I tried to angle towards this and then just confessed what I did that quite excited her. So off to the bedroom with a carrot each and lots of lube. We worked each other up slowly, trying to keep the relaxed thing going and then I went first to demonstrate. Quite a different experience with my wifes sexy body there and lots of touching and contact and kissing. I guided it at first but it wasn't long before she was really aggressively ramming it into me and it was good. I rolled onto my back with knees up to chest allowing a bit more movement and access and this also allowed for some really deep kissing and dangling of her tits over me alowing me to pull and suck on them. She then wanted me on all fours pointing my arse up and while she was loving that, once she started licking my balls and sucking on my knob I had to stop her because I didn't want to e yet and I was missing that body contact. So on my back with her on top straddled over me and i am eating her very wet pussy and dragging juice up to her arsehole and massaging it in, but every time I seemed to touch the centre her CENSORED would snap shut tight. Despite repeatedely slowly and softly saying to relax and caressing her wider arse, we just weren't getting anywhere. So I started moving my tongue up and with some initial resistance she soon seemed to be loving it and that CENSORED was getting really relaxed and I was getting a finger right in and that all seemed to be going well. Her carrot penetrating had moved to long slow in and almost out rotation while very gently licking my balls and knob, concious not to push me over the edge. But I think we had built each other up so close and with the next entry of my tongue she starting pushing back hard onto my face and then started the thrusting hard while suckiing really hard on my cock and bang, we both had huge explosive orgasms. As much as I wanted to get my carrot into her as the primary objective, we were both exhausted and slept very closely for some time. By the time we woke the moment had passed. She offered and we tried but the moment had gone and she just couldn't relax.
From then on she would often talk about it and seemed determined to allow me to fuck her arse, but there was always an excuse somewhere although I did on a number of times give her huge orgasms with oral anal.
And while my current wife is a pletely different story that would take too long to go there, I can say that I have experienced one woman who really loved it, asked for it, orgasmed on it. I can't help feeling everyone could do that but so much of this stuff is in our minds.