ok so the other night i fooled around with a guy i don't know well and we didn't have a condom so we decided to just stick to no-penetration fooling around. long story short, when it came time for him to cum, he aimed at my vagina. why why why would he do that? and can i get an std? he assured me that he was clean but i feel dirty dirty dirty and pretty angry. im also on birth control but i missed the first day of the pack so there's another worry. anyone got any words of wisdom, advice or sympathy?

Don't stress too much.
If you did not have penetration and it was just rubbing externally then there is no chance of Pregnancy.
He aimed at your vagina , so he was trying his best to align/associate sex in his mind. I am assuming you are both young so this is the least of your concerns.
I recommend that next time you are "together", if you do choose to do this again, have him pleasure you by licking your vagina tenderly from the clit, down and back up until you feel better about what he did.

He didnt come inside your vagina so you are probably safe from pregnancy. However, if you dont know him well enough then its best to get an STI test asap. Trust me you would rather do it now than be sorry later. Your mind will be at peace

I would also recommend that you probably don't see him again, if he doesn't respect your wishes and concerns now he never will. You, like all women, deserve to be respected.

Steve

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wife and girlfriend

He is an asshole. Get an STD test.

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- fairy

Did you say to him not to cum anywhere near your vagina?
This is just a male instinct, they want their tadpoles to swim home to mumma.
If you are so worried about STD then why did you do it without any protection.
Next time make sure you have your own condom.
Try not to stress so much and you may just enjoy yourself.
If you agreed to play a game of 2 handed spank the monkey you can't blame him for what he did.
You cannot just blame him, if you didn't stipulate any no go zones you are as much to blame as he is.
It sounds like it was consentual on your part so you cannot just blame him, it is partly your fault as well, it takes 2 to tango.
With the pill you usually don't have to worry until you have missed more than three days and I know from experience because I was running to the doctor every time I had unprotected sex to get the morning after pill.
I went that much that she gave me a box of them to save time .