Hi.

I'm looking for peoples opinions on which way I should head in the situation I have managed to get myself into.

I have been with my boyfriend since we were both 15 (4 years) and he is a wonderful man.  We have a glorious sex life and have even shared our bed with another woman a few times.

But the last month I have experienced things that I never thought I would.

Let me set the scene.  My boyfriend has wanted me to try a threesome with another guy for a long time but I have always said no.

Anyway, we had a fancy dress party to go to in early December and he was going to be late so I would meet him there.  I was catwoman and him batman.  He arrived and whispered to me that I was hot and wanted me now.  We slipped away and without a word semi undressed and had awesome sex.  This situation is not unusual for us so I never suspected a thing.

We go back to the party and a few minutes later another batman arrives with the exact same outfit.  I said to my boyfriend, look, another batman and he says, "yes, that's your boyfriend",  I knew straight away that the batman that I was with was not my man by the voice.

My stomach dropped, I felt like I wanted to throw up, I didn't know what to do.

I keep quite about it for the rest of the night, I found out the other batman was his best friend.  On the way home I worked up the guts to tell him, and he said he knew and asked if I liked it.  I said no, but he said he knew I did because his mate had told him.  And that his mate was on his way back to our place and we could have that threesome now if I was interested.

To be honest I don't know why, but I said ok.  It was the best thing I have ever done.  I think I orgasmed multiple times just thinking about it.

We have been seeing each other nearly every day since then and I must say I am thoroughly enjoying it.

This is where the problem lies, my boyfriends best mate (batman #2) is my bosses husband/defacto.

They say that they are going to organise a spa party and that once she has a few drinks she'll be up for anything and all four of us can be together.

I am worried now.  I had sex with my boyfriends best mate without knowing it was him initially.  I am sleeping with my bosses husband behind her back.  If they set up the spa party and it works I will soon be sleeping with my boss as well.

It all seems to be moving too fast.  I am having the time of my life and if it all works then great.  But what if my boss isn't into all this, I am left with no job and a bad reputation within that company.

Is it worth the risk? Anyone has any opinions?

Hi,
Firstly it sounds like you and your boyfriend have a great relationship that makes me jealous.
It is potentially a huge problem that the threesome partner is your bosses husband and as you say, if the party goes ahead and things start happening between you and him and she freaks you are in a very bad position.
Perhaps if you back off with her husband to be safe in the mean time and when the party happens and the subject of sex all round comes up see how she reacts and tell her that because of your relationship with her you need to know that she is happy for it to happen. Put the decission in her hands. Then of course, you must respect that decission.

Good luck !

In my opinion sex should be fun. What you experienced at the party was great but you have to know when the gravity of a situation is going to have a bigger impact on your life than you would want. When a situation threatens to become more of a liability than the fun intended, I think you should drop out. There is no reason not to have more experiences like this outside of your core life. I'm a party pooper eh? Lol

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Go Braless!

Wow that's quite a story, I enjoyed reading that. As for your dilemma, my suggestion is to try and be calm about it. Because your boyfriend and his mate were the instigators in this, it was their cunning plan that got you into it. While it isn't ideal that the boundary between business and personal is being blurred I reckon the best chance of coming out of it unscathed if your boss isn't so easily swayed is to let the fellas do all the persuading, as in persuading both you and her and to definitely not tell her what her boyfriend had been doing behind her back. That way if she can't be talked into it then it's the guys who look bad for suggesting it.

Even tho keeping the sex you had with her boyfriend secret might not be easy it is preferable to telling her. Which is loaded with risk where her emotions would wreak havoc. I hate to say it but she might more than likely blame you even, if you explain to her that it wasn't really your fault. I hope that helps.