Hey this is my first post, and I thought this is the best place to post my question.

I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 5 months, and we've had sex many times and we'   ve pretty much done everything. But theres one problem...

she gives a shit headjob.

i love her to death and everything, and she loves giving it, but shes just no good. she only just puts the tip of it, does little to know movement and doesnt use her hands at all. i can hardly even feel that shes doing it and eventually i go soft because i get bored and almost forget shes doing it. whenever that happens she feels so bad and i feel really bad for making her feel that way. But I've convinced her that it's not her fault and that i have erection problems or something, but im sure shes noticed that it only happens when shes giving head.

so because ive convinced so much that its not her fault, how can i tell her?

i was thinking of watching a porno together and acting it out so she can see how to give good head, but she might not really follow it exactly, she might just go hmm, hes giving head, i will too, and continue shittily.

please help me!

thanks in advance, Ash

You probably should have guided her in the first place, my bf tells me what he likes (usually by groans) and will tell me what he doesn't like but will always show/tell me how he'd like it to happen, I'm the same with him.

Maybe say to her 'let's try something new'.  You start off and let her know how you'd like it done.  But the porno sounds like a good idea too, maybe it the first option doesn't work.

Hey dude, just explain what you like. Tell her you love to feel her tongue on the base of your cock etc etc. Dirty talk is awesome. You could also ask her to use her hands more if she's got a sensitive gag reflex. But really you have to address these issues early on if you can! Hope it works out!

FunBubbles:

Hey dude, just explain what you like. Tell her you love to feel her tongue on the base of your cock etc etc. Dirty talk is awesome. You could also ask her to use her hands more if she's got a sensitive gag reflex. But really you have to address these issues early on if you can! Hope it works out!

Yeah, completely agree with this. The best way is to tell your girl what she does not the way you like and vice versa. I know this not from books :) I did the same with my  girlfriend when there were some problems. We just talked about it and gave advices each other :) Just talk and good luck)

Have you ever considered that she may not actually enjoy giving you head? Some girls (not me!!!) just really do not like doing it. Perhaps she is doing a shit job in the hopes that you will give up and never ask again?

Yeah I have to say that: A - Be honest and just tell her that she doesnt give good head and then B - Let her know that you feel that you can guide her though it to be more satisfying, C - Dirty talk helps heaps and D - Respond well with moans and groans so she can hear that shes on the right track to making it a great experience for you both Good Luck

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